Rethinking “Fit”: From Conformity to Contribution
Will You Choose to Build a Culture That Invites the Whole Person?
For years, “culture fit” has been the gold standard in hiring, promotions, and team building. The problem? Too often, “fit” is just code for “you think, act, and look like the people already here.” While this can create comfort for some, it can also quietly shut out fresh ideas, diverse experiences, and voices that challenge the status quo. The fact of the matter is that comfortability can also be a barrier to growth. It is uncomfortable to grow and when we embrace it, amazing things happen!
Belonging doesn’t require blending in. True belonging is sparked when people feel safe to bring their whole selves to the table — quirks, questions, and all. As leaders, our role isn’t to mold people into the existing culture so to preserve comfort but rather to shape the culture so it benefits from the richness of everyone in the room. And, sometimes this is uncomfortable until we move past the growing pains.
When we shift from “culture fit” to “culture add,” we open the door to innovation, resilience, and deeper team connection. Leaders who replace their Eeyore-like response of "That’ll never work” with “Tell me more—how could we make it happen?” make it very clear that your perspective isn’t just heard, it’s valued.
So many incredible inventions, systems, and movements have been created by people who decided to push through the naysayers and those naysayers missed out bigtime! Do you want to miss out on what an eclectic culture can do to raise the bar for your organization?
💜 Quick Tips (and Why They Matter) 💜
Pause to Audit your Reactions. The next time someone shares an idea that triggers skepticism, swap “That’ll never work” with “That’s interesting—what would it take to make it work?” This opens space for dialogue, innovation, and accountability instead of shutting it down.
Seek a “culture add” each week. Invite one person to share a perspective, skill, or experience that adds something new to the team dynamic. This makes contribution—not conformity—the norm.
Replace comfort with curiosity. Notice moments when you feel drawn toward the “familiar” in decision-making. Ask yourself, “Am I choosing comfort over growth?” and “Whose voice might I be missing?”
✨ Stretch Challenge: For one week, track your responses to every new idea you hear. Note how many times you lean toward curiosity vs. comfort, and what happened when you stayed curious. Share your findings with a peer or your team as a conversation starter about how you can all grow together.
💭 Reflection Questions
When have I unintentionally valued comfort over growth in my leadership?
How do I respond—verbally and nonverbally—when I hear an idea that challenges the status quo?
What practices could I adopt to ensure every team member feels safe sharing ideas that might be different, risky, or untested?
With empathy and purpose,
Misha Safran, MA, PCC
PS: Ready to reimagine what “fit” means for your team? I bring keynotes and trainings that help leaders embrace culture add over culture fit — without losing clarity or cohesion. Let’s connect. Click HERE to book a FREE consultation to discuss how I can help you and/or your team build everyday habits of emotional intelligence that elevate inclusion and belonging.
Land Acknowledgement: Born on the land of the Anacostans, Piscataway, and Pamunkey peoples. Currently living on Karkin Ohlone land.
All are valued in my practice: BIPOC, LGBTQIA+, humans of all backgrounds and ages. I hope to support a safer and braver space for all professionals to do peopling better.
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